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The Struggle is Real [So Speak Life]


I don’t know about you, but I’m a mess.


I don’t always say the right words, do the right thing, or act the right way. Those moments when I tell my kids to watch their mouth or fix their attitude – I find myself doing exactly what they’re doing (and probably even worse).


We all have those days when we wake up feeling irritated and suddenly our world comes crashing down. Nothing is going our way. The kids are lazy and whiney, we run out of coffee, and our to-do list is through the roof.


This is reality. It happens. Mama said there will be days like this. And you know what?

It’s OKAY.

Yes! It’s okay. Fortunately for me, I have a husband who is a firm believer in speaking life. Although his ‘life-giving advice’ may irritate the snot out of me when I’m in a mood that could clear a room, his advice is always what I need to hear.

Speak Life. 

I love Proverbs 18:21 (the Amplified version)

Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it and indulge it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words.


We’ve all witnessed the position of our hearts when someone has spoken words over us that have hurt us and the healing that takes place when we hear words of life and encouragement. I want my kids to indulge in the fruit of my life-giving words; regardless if they agree with them.


3 Creative Ways to Speak Life [Especially When You Don’t Want To]

  1. Put The Spanking Spoon Down – Now don’t start freaking out on me! But let’s get real, when you’re on a discipline-rampage, there are moments when no matter how many spanks or time-outs your kids get; it just doesn’t work. So let’s take a different approach. Gather yourself and give yourself a time-out by changing your own attitude and get down on your kids level. After you’ve disciplined them for what they did wrong, PLAY with them. Take off your ‘Nanny-Pants’ and put on your Party Pants! Have fun with your child and start encouragin them through play.
  2. Write a Love Letter – Not the same as you did in middle-school. I’m talking about a love letter to your kids. Randomly place a letter on their pillow or in their lunchbox telling them how proud you are of them. Our kids are far from perfect and so are we. Just like us, they tend to lose track of the good they cultivate amongst their world of correction and attitudes. Creatively give examples of why they’re such a good leader (if they’re bossy), or recognize their honesty and integrity in specific situations that may have been swept under the rug.
  3. Affirm Yourself – Our habits and attitudes can rub off on our children, just as much as our children’s attitudes can rub off on us. Make sure that you are surrounding yourself with family and friends that encourage you and build you up. If this is something that you’re lacking – it’s alright. Learn to see yourself in a positive way, and speak those things out. The best way for me to do this is through prayer and God’s word.


Hausler Family Values

Last Spring our church held a small group led by our Senior Pastor and his wife. It was on Marriage and Parenting. It was amazing! We talked about the reality of parenting, being consistent, marriage, sex, but most importantly – speaking life over our family.


This inspired us as a family to create our own Hausler Family Values and I wanted to share these with you today!


What values do you want to instill in the characteristics of your kids? Not only your kids, but how about your marriage? Yourself? What do you want people to see when they see you? I want others to know that although I’m not perfect, my heart’s desire is to:

  • Speak Life
  • Lead
  • Be Grateful
  • Be Honest
  • Have Integrity
  • Work Hard, and
  • Honor God

Because we encourage ourselves and our kids to have a relationship with Jesus, and base our foundational values on God’s Word, we found verses that describe the values that Will and I want our children to grow in and carry with them through the rest of their lives.



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