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Sisterly Love and Rivalry

So you’re girls come home from school and all of a sudden there’s one girl jiggling the doorknob trying to get into the room she’s (undortunately) sharing with her sister, and then she comes to you taddling that ‘sister locked the door and IT’S AGAINST THE RULES!!!’ and just because she’s taddling – you do nothing because you’re irritated. You ignore it.

Then your other daughter runs to you telling you that her sister was being sarcastic and hurt her feelings, then the other one FLIES in from nowhere taddling that sissy isn’t playing with me’ and the list goes on and on… and on….

Maybe it’s not necessarily girls, for you it could be boys – or maybe boy AND girl – either way, I’m sure you get the point. In our house, sisterly love comes and goes. A lot of times it’s fighting and bickering, nagging and whining.

With all of the nagging and taddling, it’s enough to make me want to pull my hair out and scream. I don’t want to take anyone’s side, I just want them to shut their mouths and hug and get along. But that’s not reality, is it?

Backstory on these girls – they’ve been friends for 5, almost 6 years. They’ve been with eachother since the ages of 4 (Emma) and 6 (Greta). When Will and I were dating, Greta realized that Emma’s dad was not a part of her life. She asked dad about it and so selflessly stated,

“Dad, since Emma doesn’t have a dad, I can share you with her”

If that’s not enough to make anyone fall in love with that girl, I don’t know what is! She’s a caring, selfless girl who’s always looks out for others. And so with that, Will and I ended up getting married in May of 2012 – the girls were 5 and 7. Our oldest, Taelor, was 16 when we get married. She however didn’t display much of any sisterly love and rivalry, because of her age. She was all about the love, and had other things to worry about then her little sisters. I can say with confidence, I am a blessed stepmom to have her in my life and be my encouragement in blending in with the family. ♥

Back to the story, Greta and Emma  were THRILLED to 421245_3284579549802_503968518_nbecome sisters, when even got them a bunk bed to share a room so that perhaps this would make the transition easier since their lives were about to be turned completely upside down. We thought life was going to be a smooth slope from there, they had great attitudes and seemed to be counting down the days until wedding day.

Turns out life isn’t as “perfect” as we had expected. Don’t get us wrong, the girls have their good times and the girls have their bad times. Regardless of the fact that they are now “half sisters” (Will adopted Emma), just as we have mentioned in our blog, Blended Family Vs Traditional Family, they act as if they are whole-hearted blood sisters that have known eachother since the dawn of time.

Apparently in traditional families siblings fight. What? Really? ((Sarcasm)) Yes!

So when I am sitting there watching them bicker and FREAKING OUT trying to decide when to battle and when to let them be, I remember these precious moments that they continue to have…

sibling lovesibling love

How do your kids fight? Do they point fingers? Is living in a blended family a real issue for them? Unfortunately we understand there are families out there that struggle daily with an unhealthy sibling rivalry and those who let jealousy get in the way of truly loving eachother. We are here to tell you that this is a community for you to be open and honest. Please leave us a comment and let us know how your kids get along or not, or you can contact us here.  We look forward to hearing from you!

2 thoughts on “Sisterly Love and Rivalry”

  1. Love this, Laura! Sisterly rivalry will never disappear completely, since competitiveness and seeking attention comes natural to all of us – even those of us who aren’t naturally competitive. (not me, of course – I’m super competitive, lol!)

    Something I encourage with Haylee and Emlee is this: “God loved you SO much – he gave you a built-in best friend!! Someone who literally is with you all the time – who gets to share your room, toys, stories, and hugs! Remember – you’ll have other best friends – but there is no better best friend – than a sister friend.”

    We talk about that a lot, actually. Built-in best friends. How cool is that? How aggravating is that? Lol, because – let’s face it – it can be both. I never had those relationships with my sisters – so, I want it all the more for my little lovelies.

    You know what’s great? When they get it – they understand it – and they thrive in it. The other day, they asked me if they could go outside together… of course, I said yes – thinking they’d go jump together.

    No. Instead, I saw two sweet little blondies on the trampoline, whispering in each other’s ears and laughing.

    Built-in best friend. 🙂 God is good to us!

    1. OH my gosh! That is so precious and I love that so much! Built in best friends… 🙂 I will need to talk to Greta and Emma about that. I might get an eyeroll here and there, hahaha… especially at this age. The hard part is that Greta is at the point where she is ALL about makeup, boys and lookin’ cute… and Emma is like ‘no boys, no makeup, nerd it up’. 🙂 Although I think the nerd thing sure is adorable.

      Maybe you can be a guest blogger because you ARE the queen of Blended Families! You’re such a great mom and your life lessons show through the lives of your kids and the relationship you have with your husband.

      Thanks for loving on us! <3 <3 <3 We love you!

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